Chris Gosnell

Chris Gosnell

Photographer, Videographer, Owner

The Real McCoy


Alrighty.  I am a power-packed blonde who grew up as a teen in the 80’s and wished my hair would do the Farrah Fawcett feather.  Lord knows I used enough Aqua Net that would make Trump look like an amateur, but still, no great 80’s hair.  Didn’t stop me from trying, though!

Today, I am a grand total of 5’5″ and absolutely not petite.  (smile)  I cut my hair short and dye it pink because it turns out I don’t have a good head of hair.  (Thanks Dad!) I figure it’s more fun to have fun with it than try to make it something it’s not.  Besides;  pink suits me.  A lot.

<Steps up on soap box, taps microphone>

I am not, never was, and never will be your classically beautiful, blonde bombshell.  Oh, I can hear you  now;  “Awww, don’t say that!”  I hear it all the time.  I’d rather say what’s on my mind than cower to popular belief.

What’s on my mind is you.

You, who looks at your portrait and expect to see flaws.

You, who is surprised to see your reflection captured in a photograph.

The dear heart who sees first the bags under her eyes, the laugh lines and rounder face and overlooks the beautifully stunning woman before her with a heart-warming smile and sparkling eyes.

I have a bit of a shock for you; for us all.   We do not know what we look like.  WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT WE LOOK LIKE.  Everyone else, every single other person on this planet who sees you, sees ALL of you.  They get the 360 degree view and know exactly what you look like.  Unless they’re an insecure bully, they’re going to see the best in you and love you for it.  They accept you as you are, all of you.

Mentally chew on this one;  when your friend shows you a portrait of them, what do you point out?  What do you tell them?  Would you speak to them as you do yourself? Look at those bags under your eyes!  Oh my gosh, look at those WRINKLES!  You look like a GRANDMOTHER!  Need I go on?   Even the most blunt wouldn’t be one tenth as nasty as we are with ourselves.  Why?  If you wouldn’t say it to someone else, why on God’s creation would you say it to yourself?

The enemy of your soul wants to steal, kill and destroy not just you personally, but anything about you, your influence on others and legacy you would leave in those on this planet.  Why?  Because we are created in the image of God Almighty and that makes our enemy angry.  “Don’t you dare,” he says, “reflect any glory or show any beauty.”

I say look that fear in the eye,  stare it down with the surety of Dirty Harry and go ahead and shine.  Shine.  SHINE!

I leave you with a powerful quote.


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.  -Marianne Williamson.

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